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Helping Children and Families Cope with War and Trauma

It can be confusing to know just what to say to young children and how much to discuss war and violence. All children have different needs based on their temperament, personality and developmental stage, and parents are in the best position to know what their child needs.

• Children under 2 will not understand what is happening in the world around them but will react to the tension and anxiety in their environment. Keeping routines constant and providing quiet downtime will help your young child cope.
• Children between 3 and 5 years old need to have their questions answered at a developmentally appropriate level. Reassure them that responsible adults are in charge of the crisis and that they and their family are not in danger.

Helping Children and Families Cope with War and Trauma Booklet
A helpful pamphlet with tips on preparing children for separation during stressful events, talking to your child about war and violence, strategies for parents in times of trauma and a listing of helpful web sites and books for children, parents and educators.

Tips for parents in times of trauma:

• Remember the importance of routines, especially during times of crisis. Keep regular mealtimes and bedtime. Spend quiet time each night creating calm.
• Turn off the TV and radio when children are around. You control the information they need to have and how it is presented.
• What children most need to hear is that the adults around them will take care of them.
• Try to stay as calm as possible around children. Children should see adults showing emotion, but it frightens them when their parents lose control.
• Children can be very resilient if they feel listened to, supported and cared for by parents and care givers.
• Do not be afraid to seek help for yourself or your child. These are unusual circumstances. It is normal not to have all the answers.